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\nHer ne sebeple olursa olsun ya\u015fanan hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n ard\u0131ndan hissedilen duygular \u00e7o\u011fumuzda ayn\u0131d\u0131r: \u00e7aresizlik, umutsuzluk, kin, nefret ve ka\u00e7\u0131p kurtulma iste\u011fi. Ka\u00e7\u0131\u015f i\u00e7in se\u00e7ilen yollar ya fiziksel olarak uzakla\u015fmaya ya da mental olarak dikkat da\u011f\u0131tmaya y\u00f6neliktir. Mekan de\u011fi\u015fikli\u011finin getirece\u011fi stresle y\u00fczy\u00fcze gelmek ba\u015fka bir psikolojik gerilim yarataca\u011f\u0131ndan genelde ilk at\u0131lan ad\u0131m kendini \u00e7evreleyen\/betimleyen baz\u0131 doneleri de\u011fi\u015ftirmek olur. Mesela fiziksel de\u011fi\u015fiklik yapma iste\u011fi vard\u0131r \u00e7o\u011fu kad\u0131nda ve baz\u0131 erkeklerde. Sa\u00e7 modeli, rengi, ev e\u015fyalar\u0131, kilosu, (maddi durumu uygunsa) kullan\u0131lan araban\u0131n modeli, yenilenler, i\u00e7ilenler, giyilenler, hobiler birer birer elden ge\u00e7irilir… Ya i\u00e7e kapan\u0131kl\u0131k ba\u015flar, ya da (zaman\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n getirdi\u011fi) sosyal medyaya yap\u0131\u015f\u0131k ya\u015famaya ad\u0131m at\u0131l\u0131r. Her yap\u0131lan\u0131, yenileni, i\u00e7ileni facebook, twitter, instagramdan payla\u015fmak, be\u011feniler toplamak tatmin aray\u0131\u015f\u0131d\u0131r asl\u0131nda. Filozofik s\u00f6zler u\u00e7u\u015fmaya ba\u015flar havada. Mesajlar\u0131nda sevgi ve \u0131\u015f\u0131k sa\u00e7maya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken i\u00e7indeki karamsarl\u0131k ve k\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f umutlar\u0131 okunur d\u00f6kt\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc dizeler aras\u0131nda. Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 huzursuzluk, i\u00e7inde bulundu\u011fu bo\u015fluk barizdir… Daha sonra su\u00e7lamalar ba\u015flar. Bay ya da bayan do\u011fru ilan eder kendini. Geri kalan herkes ise ‘yanl\u0131\u015flar g\u00fcruhu’… Anas\u0131, babas\u0131, kar\u0131s\u0131, kocas\u0131, evlatlar\u0131, karde\u015fleri, kom\u015fular\u0131, i\u015f arkada\u015flar\u0131, manav\u0131, kasab\u0131, hocas\u0131 … Ak\u0131l s\u0131r erdirilemez olup biten deliliklere, yamukluklara, yanl\u0131\u015flara.. \u0130\u015fte tam bu noktada ka\u00e7ma iste\u011fi devreye girer. Mekan de\u011fi\u015fikli\u011fi \u015fart olmu\u015ftur. \u00d6yle mahalleler aras\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131nmak da kesmez… Hani becerebilse, s\u0131n\u0131r \u00f6tesi bir yerlerde yakalayacakt\u0131r mutlulu\u011fu.<\/p>\n
Bu duygular yabanc\u0131 gelmedi de\u011filmi? Merak etmeyin, yaln\u0131z de\u011filsiniz. Serde biraz hassasiyet ve duygusall\u0131k, hele bir de idealistlik varsa as\u0131l bu ve buna benzer bunal\u0131mlar\u0131n ya\u015fanmamas\u0131 hayret vericidir. \u00dcniversiteden tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m,(te\u015fbihte hata olmazm\u0131\u015f) k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck cins yavru k\u00f6pekler gibi bir saniye yerinde duramayan \u00e7ok sevdi\u011fim bir Amerikal\u0131 arkada\u015f\u0131m vard\u0131r. Hayat\u0131 \u00e7o\u011fumuza nazaran \u00e7ok daha \u00e7etrefilli, biraz da al\u0131\u015f\u0131la gelmi\u015fin d\u0131\u015f\u0131ndad\u0131r. Son bir iki y\u0131l daha sakin ve rahatlam\u0131\u015f olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcnce bir kahve molas\u0131nda sordum: \u2018hayrola Nirvanaya falan m\u0131 ula\u015ft\u0131n pek huzurlu ve sakinsin \u015fu s\u0131ralar\u2019. Yan\u0131t\u0131 \u00e7ok ilgin\u00e7ti: \u2018Nevac\u0131\u011f\u0131m 5 koca de\u011fi\u015ftirdim, 23 eyalette \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m, \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m i\u015f \u00e7e\u015fidinin say\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 hat\u0131rlam\u0131yorum bile, sar\u0131\u015f\u0131n oldum, esmer oldum, s\u0131f\u0131r bedenle 48 beden aras\u0131nda gezdim durdum, mutlulu\u011fu yakalamak i\u00e7in hayat\u0131mda de\u011fi\u015ftirmedi\u011fim hi\u00e7bir\u015fey kalmad\u0131 veeee… yakalayamad\u0131m! Ta ki hayat g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fc de\u011fi\u015ftirinceye kadar… B\u00fct\u00fcn s\u0131r hayata nas\u0131l bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda… Oh be dedi\u011fim d\u00f6nemdeyim art\u0131k\u2019. B\u00fcy\u00fck bir ilgiyle dinlemeye ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m ki tam o s\u0131rada cep telefonu \u00e7ald\u0131, kalkt\u0131 gitti.. Arkas\u0131ndan baka kald\u0131m. \u2018Yahu \u00f6\u011fret de biz de rahatlayal\u0131m\u2019 diyemedim. Ger\u00e7i ortal\u0131k b\u00f6yle filozofik laflarla dolu: \u2018Hayata pozitif bak\u0131n her\u015fey g\u00fczel olsun\u2019, \u2018olanlar\u0131 ve insanlar\u0131 oldu\u011fu gibi kabul etmeyi \u00f6\u011fren, hayat\u0131n de\u011fi\u015fsin\u2019, falan falan…. Hani bu t\u00fcr yakla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131 be\u011fenmedi\u011fimden de\u011fil ama art\u0131k kabak tad\u0131 verdi b\u00f6ylesi kli\u015fe pembe c\u00fcmleler. Bir insan bo\u011faz\u0131na kadar batakl\u0131kta debelenirken yan\u0131na gidip \u2018bak karde\u015fim pozitif d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn, her\u015feyde bir hay\u0131r vard\u0131r\u2019 demenin o ki\u015fide olu\u015fturdu\u011fu etkiyi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek gerek. Baz\u0131 do\u011frular baz\u0131 konumlarda ve zamanlarda yanl\u0131\u015f olabilir.<\/p>\n
Bence \u00f6nce bizi \u00e7evreleyen ve hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131na u\u011fratan insano\u011flunun GER\u00c7EK MENTAL DO\u011eASINI anlamakla i\u015fe ba\u015flamal\u0131y\u0131z. Bug\u00fcn size ilgin\u00e7 bir bilimsel bulgudan bahsedece\u011fim. \u0130sterseniz biraz hayal g\u00fcc\u00fcm\u00fcz katarak konuya girelim: Be\u015f y\u0131ld\u0131zl\u0131 l\u00fcks bir otel d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. Tavandan as\u0131l\u0131 kristal avizeler, kadife koltuklar,giri\u015fte sizi kraliyet ailesindenmi\u015fsiniz gibi kar\u015f\u0131layanlar… Kap\u0131dan girip, alt katta otelin o dillere destan y\u00fczme havuzuna do\u011fru y\u00fcr\u00fcy\u00fcn. Ellerinde i\u00e7ecekleri, \u015f\u0131k mayo ve bikinileri i\u00e7erisinde model kapa\u011f\u0131ndan f\u0131rlam\u0131\u015f gibi g\u00fczel, yak\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131, besbelli e\u011fitimli, g\u00f6rg\u00fcl\u00fc insanlara bir g\u00f6z gezdirin. Havuz masmavi, billur gibi bir su… Hah konu i\u015fte tam burada ba\u015fl\u0131yor. Ge\u00e7en ay Environmental Science & Technology dergisinde \u00e7\u0131kan bir makaleye g\u00f6re \u0130ngiliz bilim insanlar\u0131 i\u015fte b\u00f6ylesi \u015f\u0131k ve \u2018temiz insanlar\u0131n gitti\u011fi, temiz\u2019 toplu havuzlar\u0131n sular\u0131n\u0131 analiz etmi\u015fler. Sonu\u00e7lara g\u00f6re 830 bin litrelik bir havuzun 75 litresi idrar. Bilim insanlar\u0131 \u00e7ok \u015fa\u015f\u0131rm\u0131\u015flar. \u2018Nas\u0131l olur? Durun ba\u015fka toplu havuzlara da bakal\u0131m\u2019 demi\u015fler. Bu oran\u0131n \u00fc\u00e7-, be\u015f- hata baz\u0131 yerlerde 50 kata kadar y\u00fckseldi\u011fini g\u00f6r\u00fcnce ara\u015ft\u0131rma uluslararas\u0131 boyutlara da varm\u0131\u015f. Var\u0131lan sonu\u00e7 hep ayn\u0131 olmu\u015f: En e\u011fitimlisinden en e\u011fitimsizine kadar, her k\u00fclt\u00fcr, din ve milliyetten, her ama her insan\u0131n y\u00fczd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc havuza i\u015fedi\u011fi ortaya \u00e7\u0131km\u0131\u015f. Havuza (her seferinde) i\u015femeyenlerin oran\u0131 ise ba\u015fka bir ara\u015ft\u0131rma ile belirlenmi\u015f. Sonu\u00e7 sadece %1!<\/p>\n
Yaz\u0131m\u0131n ba\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131na (b\u00fcy\u00fck bir ihtimalle) g\u00f6stermi\u015f oldu\u011funuz tepki bu haberle daha da artt\u0131 de\u011fil mi? Bu ara\u015ft\u0131rma asl\u0131nda insan do\u011fas\u0131 hakk\u0131nda \u00e7ok \u015fey anlat\u0131yor. Ortaya \u00e7\u0131kan \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli bir ger\u00e7ek var: \u0130nsano\u011flu kendi i\u00e7inde y\u00fczd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc havuza bilin\u00e7li olarak i\u015feyebilen bir varl\u0131k asl\u0131nda! Havuz temizli\u011fi konusunda en ate\u015fli konu\u015fmalar yapanlar bile bu ara\u015ft\u0131rmada zaman zaman havuza i\u015fediklerini itiraf etmi\u015fler. \u2018Nas\u0131l olsa klorlu, mikrobu k\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r! Hem az\u0131c\u0131k idrardan bir\u015fey \u00e7\u0131kmaz, idrar sterildir\u2019 diyenler bile \u00e7\u0131km\u0131\u015f aralar\u0131ndan.<\/p>\n
Havuza yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z gibi ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ili\u015fkilerin, do\u011fan\u0131n, \u00fclkenin, g\u00fczelliklerin, mutluluklar\u0131n, sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n i\u00e7ine de… direkt kendimiz, hemde bilin\u00e7li olarak \u2018limon s\u0131k\u0131p\u2019 sonra \u2018olmaz ki arkada\u015f\u2019 diye isyan ediyoruz.. \u00c7uvald\u0131z\u0131 kendimize bat\u0131rmak yok. Kronik bir \u015fekilde \u015fiddetle bireysel savunma ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 ele\u015ftiri halindeyiz. Havuza \u00e7i\u015f yapmasa bile \u2018terliyim, havuza girmeden \u00f6nce bir du\u015f almal\u0131y\u0131m\u2019diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen ka\u00e7 ki\u015fi vard\u0131r sizce? San\u0131r\u0131m o da %1 civar\u0131ndad\u0131r. Toplu havuzlarda kurald\u0131r bu… \u2018\u00c7ok bunald\u0131m, terledim, havuza atlayay\u0131m\u2019 demek d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesizliktir, yanl\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Yap\u0131yormuyuz? Yap\u0131yoruz! \u0130\u015fte havuz \u00f6rne\u011finde oldu\u011fu gibi her ele\u015ftirdi\u011fimiz, i\u00e7inde bulundu\u011fumuz problemin de bir par\u00e7as\u0131y\u0131z. <\/p>\n
Mutsuzluk i\u00e7erisinde y\u00fczd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc havuzdan \u015fikayet ederken ahlar \u00e7ekip, dizlerini d\u00f6v\u00fcp \u2018ellerde ne havuzlar var, ke\u015fke al\u0131p ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131 gitsem, oralarda y\u00fczsem\u2019 demeye benziyor hayat\u0131m\u0131zdaki ka\u00e7\u0131\u015flarda… Oysa bilim insanlar\u0131n\u0131n ispatlad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00fczere d\u00fcnyan\u0131n her yerinde insanlar kendi havuzlar\u0131na i\u015fiyorlar. \u0130nsan fakt\u00f6r\u00fc her yerde ayn\u0131. sadece ya\u015fananlar\u0131n boyutu, \u00e7e\u015fidi ve rengi farkl\u0131, o kadar.. \u2018Ba\u015fka havuzlara ka\u00e7mak iste\u011fi\u2019 yerine kendi havuzuna sahip \u00e7\u0131kmal\u0131 insan. \u00d6nce kendinden ba\u015flamal\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015f\u0131 d\u00fczeltmeye. Sonra ayn\u0131 havuzu kullananlarla kominikasyon kurabilmeli. Herkesin anlayabilece\u011fi dilde konu\u015fabilmek i\u00e7in u\u011fra\u015fmal\u0131. Bug\u00fcn\u00fcn pop\u00fclist politikac\u0131lar\u0131n ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n ard\u0131nda yatan anahtar da budur asl\u0131nda. Bireylere \u2018y\u00fczd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz su so\u011fuk, hasta olacaks\u0131n\u0131z, \u0131s\u0131tmak i\u00e7in t\u00fcm kapasitenizi kullan\u0131n\u2019 dedikleri zaman bir problemi \u00e7\u00f6zd\u00fcklerini sanarak insanlar o suya i\u015ferler. Kendi idrar\u0131nda y\u00fczmenin getirebilece\u011fi sa\u011fl\u0131k sorunlar\u0131n\u0131 anlatmak, ba\u015fka alternatifler sunmak, \u00f6rnek olmak, \u00f6\u011fretmek di\u011ferlerinin g\u00f6revidir. <\/p>\n
\u015eahsen ilgin\u00e7 olaylar silsilesi ya\u015famaktay\u0131m \u015fu s\u0131ralar. \u00c7ok uzaklardaki \u2018bir havuzda y\u00fczen\u2019 bir insan olarak bana \u00fclkemin ne farkl\u0131 ve \u00f6zenilesi g\u00fczelliklerle dolu oldu\u011funu hat\u0131rlatt\u0131 bu ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m olaylar. \u00d6n\u00fcm\u00fczdeki haftadan itibaren nevalogy\u2019de baz\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 sizlerle payla\u015faca\u011f\u0131m. Bak\u0131n bakal\u0131m buralardaki ‘havuzlar’ ne kadar ‘temiz’.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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